On June 7, 2005, Dave’s life was changed forever. His only child, his 14 year old son, Michael, went to the beach, got drunk, went into the Gulf of Mexico, passed out in the water and drowned. He was clinically dead for 5 to 10 minutes. Vacationers staying in a hotel not far from where Michael was saw him and called 911. A county sheriff’s deputy arrived on the scene, pulled Michael out of the water and resuscitated him. Because of the lack of oxygen to Michael's brain he suffered what is called an Anoxic Brain Injury. Michael was then flown by Life Flight to Sacred Heart Hospital and placed on life support. Michael wasn’t alone at the beach that day. He was with a couple of 16 year old boys, two 19 year old girls, and one 20 year old girl. One of the 16 year olds provided vodka and the girls provided beer. None of these kids tried to stop a 14 year old from drinking and none of them helped him when he passed out in the water. Some of the kids involved went to the hospital that night and when asked if alcohol was involved they responded “no”. After a blood alcohol test was performed it was discovered that Michael had a blood alcohol level of 0.32. This was the beginning of their lies to the authorities. More on this later.

Dave spent just about every day and night for the next few weeks with Michael at the hospital. The first day Michael was there, Dave could not enter his son’s room because of all the tubes and monitors to which Michael was connected. When he was able to enter his son’s room the real pain and anger over what had happened began to take hold. Dave started learning just what brain damage can do to a body and suffered the pain and anguish of watching his son go through what laymen call “Storming” or more technically, Dysautonomia. Typical symptoms are: elevated temperature, profuse sweating, increase in heart rate, increase in respiratory rate and labored breathing, agitation, increased muscle stiffness (spasticity), and large pupils. These storms come on without warning and can last for hours. Imagine watching your child thrash around with a heart rate of around 190, soaking his sheets in a matter of minutes and not be able to do anything but watch and hope the drugs used to calm him down take affect soon.

This happened daily, sometimes multiple times per day for the first 3 months. Along with this, Michael was on morphine at the beginning of his stay. He became addicted and the hospital had to treat the addiction as well as the brain injury. Another terrible thing for a parent to go through. Michael eventually became medically stable enough for him to begin some real rehabilitation. Dave and Sacred Heart Hospital arranged for Michael to go to Children’s Hospital of Atlanta (CHOA). Atlanta is a six hour drive but Dave did it every other week while Michael was there. He and his ex-wife swapped staying with Michael and learning how to care for someone in his condition. They had to learn how to clean his feeding tube, known as a g-tube. They learned how to use a Hoyer lift to get Michael from his bed to his wheelchair and back to his bed. They learned how to take care of someone who can’t swallow, can’t eat, can’t talk, can’t walk, can’t do anything for himself. What they didn’t get and were promised by all the flyers and brochures for the place is the 6 to 8 hours of rehabilitation for Michael. They were lucky to get 2 hours a day. The doctors at CHOA then decided that Michael needed to have the tendons at the back of his legs cut since his muscles were atrophying and his legs were starting to permanently bend. This, of course, delayed his rehab by about a week and a half because they couldn’t do the usual things with Michael while he was healing from surgery. Also during Michael’s stay at CHOA the doctors decided to insert a Baclofen pump into is abdomen. Baclofen is used to combat the muscle stiffness and spasticity. It is also a way to help control his storming. Michael was sent home at the beginning of September. He is unaware of his surroundings and his body is deteriorating daily since he is bedridden. Dave mentioned once that he sometimes listens to the voicemail greeting on his son’s cell phone just to hear his voice. Michael is trying to talk and I hope and pray he does it soon. No parent should have to go through this much pain.

Dave and his ex-wife are now learning how to live with a child with special needs. Michael is going to a special school where, hopefully he will get the rehabilitation he needs. There are lots of people praying for Michael’s recovery and I am one of them. I see the pain on Dave’s face when I see him. I hear it in his voice when I talk to him. He doesn’t sleep well and probably doesn’t eat correctly either. Dave talks about all the heroes in this story, but I think he is also a hero. I admire his perseverance in the face of the injury to his son, in the legal system that is working so slowly, in the fight with the insurance company to get the help he needs, in his undying love for his son and in his fight to make this as public as possible in the hopes that it will help other parents to not have to suffer they way he and his family are suffering. Dave has a very difficult uphill battle to fight and he is slowly making it to the top. He has the help and support of all his friends, me included, to help make the climb a little easier.

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