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Bird Flu Blues – helping kids cope with bad news |
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Contributed by Paul Madrid
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My son Josh was scared. You could see it in his little face.
Angst was written all over him. His knuckles were as white as his
t-shirt. He starred down. “What’s up?” I asked with a smile hoping to
relieve his fears. “Daddy,” he nervously replied, “I’m afraid I’ll get
Bird Flu!”
And this from a seven year old! At breakfast time!!
I’m
not sure if Josh had heard me talking about Bird Flu or if he heard
about it at school. Whatever the case, kids do hear all that is going
on around us and need to be helped through their fears before they get
a pandemic of the stomach. There are in fact just a few simple things
we as parents can do to help our kids work through issues, regardless
of the age or gender of our bundles of joy.
A lot of what kids
(and especially youth) need is simply an ear. Talking with your child
about the issues at hand is vitally important. When I explained to Josh
that Bird Flu is very susceptible to heat and that just zapping his
breakfast in the Microwave already killed all those bad guys (germs)
his face light up like a Christmas tree. I also explained to him a few
other facts about Bird Flu including tips on washing hands, covering
the mouth when coughing and not kissing the neighbors chicken. Adding a
few practical steps can help your child relate to the more complex
“how’s”, and in this case, even have the added benefit of finally
getting those hands washed before meals.
Of course my son knows I travel to Asia and in fact lived in China where influenza
is birthed. So yes, I told him too of precautions I take, vaccines
which are available against the flu virus and most importantly, that
God is in control so I don’t have to worry. I suggested to Josh that he
too can pray for me when I travel and that he is under God’s
protection. I took it another step and said we can do something
positive and helpful for other kids. We talked about what he could tell
his friends at school should they get scared. We talked about how we
could pray together for kids in China. And we talked about giving to
help fund research. All these things helped Josh face the issue of Bird
Flu in a different light.
I know that Josh is not completely
over his fears. He hears more and more about Bird Flu and I know that
when kids are sick at school Josh wonders of they “have it.” That is
why I keep up to date with Josh about what is going on without making
Bird Flu an issue or blowing it out of proportion. I hear in his
prayers that it is sometimes on his mind, other times not. So I keep a
balance in how or when I approach the subject. And of course I make the
point to always pray God’s protection over us as a family and to keep
our house safe. In this way Josh gets a perspective on life which
doesn’t suggest that danger is non-existent but rather that through
action and prayer we don’t have to live in fear.
By Paul Madrid / RJK
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